Moroccan men red flags – 11 warning signs he’s not that into you
So you met an adorable new guy from Morocco, possibly online, maybe while traveling. He seems sweet and genuine, but you’re not sure because you’ve heard some horror stories about immigration and visa scams. What are the signs that your new love interest is genuine? How do you recognize Moroccan men red flags?
Side note: Please keep in mind the fact that relationships are incredibly complicated. All of the blame for relationships not working out is not put on one person, one set of people, one nationality, or one set of characteristics. We also have articles about exploitive relationships with other dynamics, but that’s not what this one is about. This one is specifically about Moroccan men and red flags or signs they may not have genuine feelings for the person they are pursuing.
Every single person on the planet has red flags. I have them, you have them, literally everybody has them. However, there’s no excuse for collecting red flags, particularly in high-risk long distance relationships. If you see these behaviors in the man or woman you are talking to, seriously reevaluate your relationship and maybe ask some trusted people in your life what they think. It’s easy to get blinded by love. Wisdom is so important in protecting yourself from being hurt, taken advantage of, or wasting years of your life.
See our Moroccan men green flags post, too!
š© Moroccan men red flags #1: He asks for money
If there was ever a red flag, this is the reddest of all the red flags. And this is not just relationships amongst foreigners, this is domestic as well. If the man or woman you are talking to you ever, ever asks for money, particularly when you just met, run. Don’t stop running.
Moroccan men are proud. They have a strong sense of pride and masculinity. No self-respecting Moroccan man would ever, ever, ever ask anyone he seriously wanted a relationship with for money. Not an American woman, not a foreigner, not an alien from space. Even if he were desperate, he would ask every single friend, associate, relative across the world before he’d ask you.
Keep in mind, however, men can ask for money without actually asking for money. If he’s constantly lamenting his financial situation, if he complains that his sister’s brother’s cousin needs money for surgery, if he’s complaining that his phone is getting turned off because of lack of funds, these are ways of asking without asking.
The local economy is terrible. Trust me. I live here; I see it every day. However, it’s not bad enough to ask strangers for money. Especially ones you want to date. If he honestly wants a relationship with you, wouldn’t he put his best financial foot forward? Wouldn’t he show you how he’s trying his hardest? Do not trust a man that will ask for money, directly or indirectly. A Moroccan man would never ask a Moroccan woman for money if he wanted to marry her. Why would he ask you?
š© Moroccan men red flags #2: He says “I love you” or talks about marriage right away
Dating in a Muslim country is different from dating in the western world. They do tend to have different ways of approaching the concept of dating, and it does honestly tend to move a lot faster than we do in the United States or other non-Muslim places. However, this is not an excuse for him to be pushing you to get married right away.
Him telling you that he loves you despite not knowing you for very long is something that we call “love bombing,” and it’s a manipulation tactic used to get you into a relationship much faster than you should be comfortable with. The woman will think, “wow, I must be really special, I must be unique because he sees something in me, and he loves me so quickly“.
But the reality is he knows that he can influence your behavior faster if he gets you to feel stronger feelings for him sooner. You’re likely to visit faster, likely to commit faster, likely to start the visa immigration process faster. Be mindful of love bombing, and don’t be fooled into thinking that it’s more than it actually is.
š© Moroccan men red flags #3: Constantly badmouths or belittles Moroccan women
Don’t get me wrong, everybody has their own personal preferences about their attraction and the kind of women that they are interested in. But, if your suitor can’t explain why he’s interested in foreigners without trashing the women of his own country, that’s a red flag.
A common lie to explain away pursuing a foreigner is for the Moroccan man to claim, “all Moroccan women are materialistic” or “Moroccan women only want money.” This is not true at all and is simply a suitable excuse to “blame” Moroccan women for their pursuit of foreign women.
š© Moroccan men red flags #4: Makes tons of excuses
Life happens to all of us! But, if your man constantly has an excuse for everything, that’s a red flag. He can’t work because the economy is bad, he can’t go to school because it’s too far away, he can’t call you because X, Y, Z? Morocco is a hard place to live, but there’s a point where all they’re giving is excuses? That’s not good.
Morocco is not an excuse to not try. Yes the economy is bad, but there are also millions and millions of people working. There are jobs. Not even trying is not a good sign.
Be careful of him saying things like, “I can’t find a job here, but I’m going to work really hard once I get to [insert your country here]”. Empty promises are useless. If he can’t find work, what is he doing to improve himself and his skills in the meantime? Is he learning a trade, learning skills online, becoming more marketable somehow? Or is he sitting at the cafe, hanging out with his buddies, and expecting other people to foot the bill?
š© Moroccan men red flags #5: He doesn’t care about having kids/says he doesn’t want them
Family is everything in Morocco. Moroccan & North African men are often taught that the most important thing in life is starting a family. If he’s quick to dismiss the idea of family, claims he doesn’t want kids, or doesn’t even seem to need to think about it, that’s a red flag. š©
Don’t get me wrong, Moroccan men are not a monolith, and not wanting children is not necessarily a red flag. He may genuinely not want them. But the majority do, especially younger men. A man that is quick to write off having kids or defers to anything you want in regard to family planning is a sign that he may not be in it for the long haul.
š© Moroccan men red flags #6: Compromises too much or not at all
Every single relationship requires compromise. Relationships require empathizing and understanding with your partner. However, there’s a sweet spot when it comes to compromise that can’t be ignored when considering a long-distance relationship.
If your Moroccan partner does all the compromising, never challenges you on anything, and completely disregards his religion and culture in order to make you happy, this is a red flag. This is him trying to make you feel happy and is a common love-bombing technique. This is not establishing the basis of a strong and stable long-term relationship. He can’t live with this forever but forever isn’t his goal. He’s just making you happy until he gets what he wants and then he will put his foot down about these things as an excuse to end the relationship.
“Suddenly” things like “respectful/conservative clothing,” or “having male friends,” or drinking and smoking, or other things that he was quick to compromise on become extremely important, and he leaves.
On the flip side of this, if he does none of the compromising and expects you to do every single ounce of compromising, this is him just setting you up to fail in the future. If he doesn’t care about your culture, doesn’t respect your religion, isn’t interested in your hopes and dreams. Why are you even with this person?
š© Moroccan men red flags #7: He won’t change his relationship status on social media, or his social media has tons of foreign women on it
In Islam, and in many cultures, there’s something called “the evil eye“, which prevents a lot of Muslims from engaging much on social media for fear of jealousy or envy sabotaging their relationships. I believe this, and I know this to be a real thing. But, it is not an excuse to completely invalidate your relationship on social media. If your boyfriend is comfortable posting selfies every other day but isn’t interested in acknowledging your relationship publicly, that’s a red flag.
Is your man going to lengths to hide you or his relationship status? That’s a red flag. If it’s important for him to appear single on his social media, that’s a red flag. Do lots of foreigners or even local women interact with his pictures, leaving heart emojis and other cutesy things? That’s a red flag. Social media is not the most important aspect of a relationship, but its importance in the modern age cannot be understated or disregarded.
Even if he has legitimate reasons for not wanting to be “in a relationship” with you on social media, for family or religious reasons, there’s absolutely no reason he shouldn’t at least put himself as “in a relationship” or otherwise indicate that he has taken. Even Muslim men who are married to Muslim women who don’t show themselves on social media for religious reasons will indicate themselves as “married”. There’s NO reason he cannot do likewise unless you’re not the only person he’s talking to.
To add to this, if he has a ton of foreigners who are constantly interacting with his content, there should be a big conversation as to why. It calls into question his priorities, as well as his commitment. This isn’t just a red flag for Moroccan men, but any man. They will often have girls they are interested in on their social media when they are single, but that should change once he is committed to one person (hopefully you). Many Moroccan men treat social media (Facebook/Instagram/TikTok) like a dating app.
Any shady or suspicious behavior should be treated as such. Don’t let things slide that you wouldn’t accept in your own culture.
š© Moroccan men red flag #8: Huge age gaps
This is definitely a controversial one because age gaps don’t necessarily have to be that big of a deal. Especially when it comes to maturity, life experience, and other factors. But, for many, the idea of vastly different ages can be a red flag, regardless of who is older. It tends to be more socially acceptable for the man to be significantly older.
Many Moroccan men won’t care, and this won’t be a red flag. But some will, and that should be a serious conversation between you and your partner. Often families will have opinions about this and may not be as readily accepting of large age gaps. To add, large age gap relationships where the woman is older is uncommon in Moroccan relationships.
š© Moroccan men red flag #9: Ghosting/disappearing for stretches of time
If your Moroccan boyfriend periodically disappears for random, large stretches of time with no explanation or makes weak excuses, that’s a red flag. Wi-Fi is everywhere here, and phone service is not very expensive at all. If he makes excuses about being unable to communicate with you but never warns you about it or otherwise is acting sketchy, that’s not good.
Depending on where he lives, some rural cities are less connected, and Wi-Fi and signal are less common. However, this is changing quickly, and most places will have decent reception. If he lives in Casablanca or Rabat, for example, he should have no excuse as the reception is on par with the United States and other nations.
š© Moroccan man red flag #10: Not introducing you to family
As mentioned earlier, family is extremely important to the average Moroccan. It’s one of my favorite things about the culture, honestly. However, if your boyfriend or fiancĆ© is telling you that he’s not ready for you to meet his family. That’s one of the big red flags for Moroccan men.
š© Moroccan man red flag #11: Keeping secrets or hiding his social media
Secretiveness is a bad sign in any relationship, but especially one that is mostly online or coming from a high-risk international relationship. If he’s keeping secrets, it’s likely that:
- He has many foreign women that he’s talking to, getting money from, and making big promises to.
- He already has a wife and he’s just trying to find a way to get money or a visa.
- He is keeping his communication secret from his family, his current relationship, or other potential relationships he’s managing.
Secrets are a bad way to start a relationship. If you feel like he’s hiding things, it may be a sign that this isn’t a good or healthy relationship. Remember, international romance scams are becoming more common by the day. If you’re a “target,” you have everything to lose, and he has everything to gain. You have to protect yourself, and if you don’t have something as simple as trust, you don’t have anything.
Feel free to comment below and share your own Moroccan men red flags, experiences, and insights!
63 Comments
Tay
Great post. Really eye-opening points!
Amanda
Is it disgraceful for a Moroccan man to be with an American women who smokes and drinks? Occasionally
Kimberly
I’ve been married to my Moroccan husband for 5 years and I lived in Morocco with him for 3 years there, back and forth between The USA and Morocco.
My husband and I were both in our 40’s when we met in a mutual interest Facebook Group. He had never been married and had no children and that was a choice he made long before he met me. I was divorced with grown children. We talked for a several months before I traveled to Morocco to meet him but just a week before I was due to travel to Morocco to meet him in person (I was had been planning a visit back to Scotland first because I was born there and still have family there) but unfortunately I was a passenger in a trauma car accident and I sustained life threatening injuries. The injury to my leg was permanent and I found myself in very difficult circumstances in The USA where I was living and working. My husband brought me straight to his family’s home with me in a thigh to ankle leg brace and this caused a huge problem with his family. They were less than hospitable towards me.
First of all my husband lied to me and said that he had his own apartment but neglected to tell me that it was in the family home and the family dynamics were already quite strained. He also lied about being employed.
I have traveled the world and I am very familiar with Islamic culture. Just prior to my accident my husband asked me for $500.00 and I sent it to him because I know how disadvantaged these people in 3rd World countries are. I thought it would be interesting and I’ve always been the curious adventurous type…Yep, I married him just so I could stay in Morocco with him because he couldn’t have gotten a Visa to travel to The USA or to The UK.
Ladies , do not feel sorry for these men and don’t fall for the BS. They won’t appreciate your generosity and they will actually see your kindness as weakness! It’s just who they are. You can’t be nice to people from these countries because they will stab you in the back sooner than you can say WTAF!!
Long story short we got married and this POS never worked, hadn’t worked in 3 years when I met him and lied about that too. I supported him throughout our marriage and he never tried to find a job. Since I had to return to The USA for further surgery he has continued to ask for money and having seen firsthand how things are in Morocco I had compassion for him and sent him money from time to time. People work for peanuts in these countries and yes they are exploited. Morocco is a very poor country, in fact it’s a filthy disaster with little opportunity.
I have never doubted that my husband loves me, he’s very loving, he’s kind and and very helpful but he’s attached to the idea of having an American wife and attached emotionally and financially primarily. He doesn’t have the skills to be a husband.
In Morocco he thought he was justified in taking my debit card š³ whenever he wanted because he was my husband, we were living in Morocco with no plans to leave but he’s the stereotypical Moroccan man looking for someone to exploit and have sex with. Perhaps this is an unfair judgement but it’s what I personally observed.
I’m going back to Morocco in October to divorce him. He doesn’t know…He thinks I’m coming back for a romantic reunion. It’s going to be a big surprise for him…I’ll be in Europe on holiday The joke is on him now!
I’m an exceptionally beautiful woman, not to brag, which is what attracted him to me in the first place. I am a Registered Nurse, very intelligent, intellectual, well traveled and very independent.
My advice to any Western woman who is thinking about a relationship/marriage with a Moroccan man or any man from a Muslim country is just don’t do it!! I promise they will take advantage, they will lie, cheat and steal. It will end badly even if they are not religious and my husband was not a practicing Muslim.
I can’t possibly cover this entire story here but the bottom line is they are predators no matter how nice, proper and sincere they may appear on the surface. š. Don’t feel sorry and don’t fall for the BS!
BL
Hi Kimberly, sorry that happened to you but thank you for the information
Nana
Yes. Agreed. Completely. Good article.
diana excursiones desierto marrakech
True… I ve a moroccan bf since 5 years ago. Mine is honest but I know our relationship can’t go ahead because his mother doesnt want him to marry a foreigner and he respects that so much. He doesnt want to make her sad…It s hard because we love each other so much š
Kate
I’m so sorry you’re going through that. That’s so heartbreaking š
T
Hey need your help so I met a Moroccan man almost a week ago on hinge I live in the U.S by the way a we hit off really quickly he is so sweet and seems to be such a gentleman almost to good to be true at first I thought it was for visa purposes but he doesn’t seem to want to marry me like he wants to build up to that point he didn’t say that but that’s what I’m guessing but anyways he claims he loves me after a week I said it back but I know fassure I’m not In love but I am falling in love he also said he wants to be in a relationship with me after week? But at the same time I don’t think he even wants to come to America because he keep making excuses and it doesn’t seem like he even wants a visa so I’m trying to figure out what he might want from me anyways let’s get into the big red flags number one I live in America so this is a 5 hour time difference but even down here he always text me late at night and he claims he’s at his college all day then he goes to sleep either that or he out with his friends right after I didn’t pay it no mind at first but now that I think about it it’s weird that he only texts me at night number two when he leaves the house it seems like he doesn’t have connection but it’s word to me because you said if he’s from RABAT he should and he is plus at night time when he goes to sleep the connection automatically goes off which is weird and sometimes it will happen randomly number 3 he keeps asking for sexy pictures in the beginning I didn’t pay it no mind because he we are long distance plus the both of us are freaks and we talk about sex and stuff but now he asks for them a lot all the time randomly to sometimes we could be talking about how tired he is from school and he would ask and this one time I was crying and he said wipe your tears and let me see you looking sexy at first I thought it was cute but now that I think about it it’s weird so now I think he may be using me to get his rocks off because we will face time and he will do you his thing and yeah so now I’m wondering also another red flag the other day we was talking about getting him a job down here in the U.S he kept making excuses but supposedly his sister lives down here I said that it’s easy to get a job in the U.S this wasn’t the first time i brung that idea to him the first time I did he seemed ok with it so when I brought it up to him yesterday I asked for her number to talk to her I said just tell her I’m your girlfriend and after I said that all of a sudden he said he is not on speaking terms with her so he doesn’t want to ask her for help I believed him at the time but now I’m thinking about how you were saying him not wanting me to meet his family would be a red flag and now I’m wondering if he went on hinge looking for a whore to get his rocks off or is he really in love with me and I’m just crazy and I’m overthinking he is 20 and I’m 19 by the way can you help me please thank you.
G
Total red flags š© girl! Run!šāāļø
Janice
Thank you so much. But is there a way to know that your Moroccan BF is divorced without him knowing?
Kate
Not really. There isn’t a database that is easily accessed. If you’re worried that he’s keeping things from you or not being honest, that’s a pretty significant red flag. Honestly is extremely important in all relationships, especially long distance ones with people from other countries.
Charry
For the first time in my life,that I entertain foreigner man which is a black Moroccan..I’m quickly fall for him..I know that I loved him even in short time that we met each other,he’s a very sweet man,š¢but he decided to leave me,coz he told me honestly that he cant give me the life that I wanted..I want him to be my husband but at the same time I have already kids,he dont want me to leave my kids just for him,and he dont want to live alone far from me if we are together..it was stressful to him the situations that we had..and his not.ready to take a risk..its because I loved him so muchš¢š¢i decided to set him free even it was painful for me to let go..I know someday God will heal me..I am crying while Im typing..ššššš
Alicia
Thank you for taking the time! Everything here was a complete eye opener to me! Sometimes we need to read it to believe it what’s really going on! The only thing on here that didn’t relate to my situation was the social media, he put that we were married and made his love known on social media. But he recently came back after ghosting me for several months asking to borrow money. I’ve given him money in the past because he would complain about medical treatments for his family and not having rent money etc. I feel so silly for believe this was a serious relationship. The one good thing that came from it was accepting islam. I did not accept Islam for him but studied it because i wanted to understand his culture and found my path. He had requested me study it
He is now blocked after reading this
Kate
I’m sorry you went through that experience. Asking for money and ghosting are huge, huge red flags. Good for you for recognizing them.
Sharon Van Der Werf
I met my Moroccan partner 1yr and a half ago at work, he asked me to live with him. We have been living together 1yr 2mths now. He never asks for money. But he is very secretive with his phone, he doesn’t want me to leave yet I know deep down he is or is planning on using me for something. He is 40 I am 34. I have a feeling he is married to someone in Morroco. He can be very hard on me. He chats other women in secret on WhatsApp and I know he has cheated on me at least once. To leave him I need to find a new job as we work for same company, I am job searching. It is hard to do anything feeling this heavy. I love him but my gut tells me something is very off, apart from the cheating. I just wish I knew what he wanted with me. I really believed and trusted him but I have woke up now.
Geneva
Sharon, I’m dating a Morroco man in the US also. We have been dating 6 months. He is SO possesive of my phone and refuses to let me see his phone. He tells me everything on his phone is confidential and top secret…used for work. He is so concerned about my male friends and made me delete most of them from my phone book. I’m not trusting after seeing this webpage and “red flags” . He refuses to have me meet his family even over whatsapp. He calls his family (mother, cousins, aunts…etc) weekly at MY house but will not introduce me. He is so secretive about his job but all into my job and my life (every detail). He has been married in the US in FL and he is very quiet and does not share any information about his previous life in Florida. He makes me pay for everything when he is at my house. He rarely pays for anything. I know he has money for he takes care of his family in Morocco and owns a house there. He has dual citizenship. I think after your post I’m beginning to wake up now.
anonymous female
Today i met a Moroccan men he approached me. He asked me for money i said no sorry i do not have money right now. Then he began to introduce him self. He said he was 29 a factory worker he also wanted my nummber for cause he wanted to drink coffee with me. We spoke in english to each other we are both not native english speakers. But we were able to have a converstation with each other. He said i was charming etc.
Kate
Be careful. Sounds like flattery to get money.
ANONYMOUS FEMALE
Hi, this is a really interesting article.
I have a potential love interest with a Moroccan man he is 26 and Iām 25. I met him while on holiday with a family member, he works in the hotel and does crazy hours but never complains and is always enthusiastic for life. This is what drew my attention to him but I didnāt approach. One evening while we were talking with one of the other staff members he appears and takes my social media details. We start talking. We stayed up together through early hours of the morning talking while I was still in Morrocco and he made me feel so special.
He says I am special to him and am everything heās ever looked for in a girl (#2 red flag) because of the way I am. Shy, not drink a lot like other English people, and likes my style ā I never walked around the pool with a bikini on and often had vest tops and longs skirts on, I am not comfortable with showing my body in public ā the things he says he likes about me, are just me and not made up. Could this be another red flag?
Going home I thought things would change but they just developed. Everytime he isnāt working he video calls me, and when he is working he will send me photos/videos of what he is doing and always says how much he misses me.
Hes told me about his past foreign girlfriend which brokeup because of trust but when I ask him about why he wouldnāt date a Moroccan girl he says they are materialistic and he doesnāt feel himself with them (red flat #3).
I honestly really like him and enjoy talking with him but I am so worried of being used or scammed. He says he wants to come and visit me in England after I come back to Morocco again to meet his family first and has asked about what work he could do if he was with me in England. He has also said he doesnāt care what he is doing or what country he is in and could happily stay in Morrocco.
Marriage, children number and everything like that has already been discussed in the first few weeks of talking.
Do you have any advise because I have read so many horror stories and itās made me question everything he says or does which isnāt good for any kind of relationship!
Kate
Him being in tourism is a red flag I should probably add, as this is a common tactic for Moroccan men who are working in hotels/restaurants/as drivers or guides. Many, many women meet their Moroccan man this way and many Moroccans use their job in tourism to find foreigners.
He had trust issues with his last foreign girlfriend, and he had a foreign girlfriend before you. Both of those are big areas of concern and would be huge red flags for me.
Him visiting England is extremely unlikely as UK tourist visas are very, very difficult for Moroccans, even if he has a house/plenty of savings/etc. They will assume he will not return to his country, especially if they know he has a girlfriend there. They all say “you can move to Morocco” but they will make Morocco sound like an awful/terrible place and discourage you from that route.
I’d ask him about the trust issues and take the fact that you are not his first foreign girlfriend very seriously. How old was she? What were the trust issues? On his socials, is he following a lot of European/Western women?
Just be very careful. Feel free to send me a message if you’d like to chat more.
Maria
Oh no Kate! I met the Moroccan guy I am talking to while on holiday. He was my tour guide. It’s been about a week since I left Morocco and the first few days we would message each other a lot. Now, it takes 12+ hours to get a response. He told me that he had been talking to an Australian girl before the pandemic, but she stopped responding to him. He said he had been single since then. Glad I saw your post….really making me reconsider everything.
Kayleigh
Hello, So I am in a very similar situation to someone elses comment. While on holiday I met a moroccan man aged 24, I am 20, and we hit it off in the end of my first week of my 2 week long holiday (In Turkey). I went outside of the hotel with him and he was very resoectful and I felt comfortable at all times. When his co-workers found out he liked me they done they done the teenager thing of hyping us up and joking around. One of them even said to myself and my godmother, when he wasnt there, that this whole season he has never looked at a girl in that way (this is very easy to tell from watching him and his interactions) and that he even asked him if he was gay. This reassured me about him however after reading all the horror stories, I am now very nervous. Since coming home from holiday we have messaged daily, it’s the classic have you eaten today, have a safe trip, he is an old school gentleman. He has briefly brought up whether I am the type for marriage and kids, I replied that I am, marriage itself hasn’t been brought up since, just that he hopes for a good and happy life with me. He says he has already told his mother about me, wants me to meet his family (including his siblings) and for him to meet mine straight after, especially my mum. He always adds the tell your mum I said hi or if i have told him she is stressed he offers some kind words for her. He did ask whether I would move to morocco or have thought about moving to any other country in general, I was honest and said I have always loved the idea of it however I am too close with my family and would miss them too much. A separate day to this he said he doesn’t care what country it is, he is just happy as long as he is with me. I am very aware this is new and dont want to rush anything as I am very nervous now because of the stories I have heard. I have planned to visit him early next year so there is a couple months to see if we end up stopping talking. I am just unsure, my godmother was there and approves and thinks he is genuine, I am just making myself nervous
Confused
Hi Kayleigh. I am in a similar situation. I am actually 5.5 years older than the man I met. 36/41. He has said all of the things you mentioned, including the living in Morocco or any country as long as he was with me. We met online and have spent about 2 months together in person. We have known each other over a year now, video chat every day, message throughout the day, etc. He always said to tell me mom hi, asks how my family is, etc. Now he is friends with some of my very close friends and my parents on social media. We all video chat and I have met his family and a couple of friends. He comes across as very genuine, but you read these stories, and then I read that the man you met said the same things to you that mine has and it makes me wonder if this is a standard scam guide that is being followed. It’s so hard.
Cay C.
Wow! I just came across this page, and it’s spooking me out reading your “red flags” and other people’s comments! I have read quite a bit of articles and things and, not the type to label all-or even most-Moroccans as scammers, but just concerned about red flags. Some of what you warn about are things I’ve questioned, but this is the first time I am actually reading “my concerns” from someone else (your post)!! Other women commenting that they are being asked the EXACT SAME THINGS that I have been asked almost EVERY SINGLE DAY for the past 2 years seems a bit odd, but the one that gets me is the “foreign women on social media” and him not showing as “in a relationship!” With his old facebook, I asked why he had so many foreign womwen as FB friends, and I forgot what excuse he used! But then with his newer one, when I asked why he didn’t post pics of me on FB, he said he doesn’t use FB for things like that…just for watching soccer! Well, then my question was, “If just for soccer, why do you have so many females as FB friends then??! He is quick to tell me, “I do nothing wrong!” And though I did not request this, he had a friend help him delete all the female friends. Nontheless, I am SO curious to know…why WOULD he have so many foreign female friends, and following them?? i know you mentioned this in your post, but what is the reason for this behavior? Thanks for sharing the article.
Kate
Him getting defensive is a concern. How would he feel if you had tons and tons of Moroccan male friends on your facebook and then got defensive about them?
I’d ask him why he had so many female foreign friends. I’m guessing his answer will be, “I just wanted to practice English” or something like that (classic answer).
How were his interactions with them? Flirty?
The “in a relationship” thing is a red flag, too, because he’s trying to appear single… why?
Just be careful. These relationships are always a huge risk. Feel free to email me if you want to chat further.
Cay C.
Thanks for your reply! Oh boy…I just read your post about “Signs the Moroccan Loves You,” and there was so much in that post that sounds like him!!-He helped plan my trip last year (every step of the way); not only did he meet me at the airport, but his mom insisted on accompanying him to meet me; I met a lot of his family and a couple of friends (in different parts of Morocco); he wouldn’t let me pay for anything whatso ever; and he refuses to take money from me! I really don’t know what I have gotten myself into!! But I will say, though, that I know he really cares for me, however, I feel there is some deception in regards to “why he reached out to me in the first place,” and also when I have asked about his FB and why he doesn’t date foreigners in Morocco (as he had already told me early on that he doesn’t like the Moroccan woman’s mantality…
Well, please let me know what you think, but even if there are real feelings for me, if there are ANY red flags..do the “real feelings” even mean much?? I am supposed to be flying to Morocco to visit again real soon. Thanks again
RK
Hello! Thank you for making this page. I would like to give you my story too and have your thoughts please! I have put a lot of personal detail on here so would really appreciate if this could be kept private and pleaseee could you email me back instead?
So I met my Moroccan man on a Muslim marriage app about two months ago. We matched and his location was London and said he was 26. He was quite pushy in ringing me on the app and told me straight away he was living in Morocco. He was upset because he had just ended a relationship with another British girl over trust issues, he said she didnāt trust him because he liked another girls picture on Instagram and he thought it was stupid because she was just a friend. I am a practising Muslim from a practising Muslim family, I am not Moroccan originally though. I wear hijab and dress modestly. I can see your advice to non-Muslim women, but just wanted to know what your thoughts were on the fact I am already Muslim?
He said he was 26 but found out on his social media that he was actually 23, he said at first it was a mistake but then said he put 26 as his age because he wanted a more mature woman. I am 27. He apologised for lying and said it has been on his mind to tell me the truth. He said to me on my first call what I think of younger men, I said I donāt mind if itās a year or two and so because I said that he thought itād be ok but 4 years is pretty considerable for me anyway. However, he is so mature – tbh more mature than me so itās not something I even remember often! He said he doesnāt like Moroccan women because they are not very practising in religion and materialistic. We get along sooo well. I matched with a lot of men on the app, but our convo just flowed so naturally and I am usually someone who gets disinterested so quickly but it was so easy with us as we have a lot in common. I always thought weād stop talking at some point but the convo just flowed so easily. He has never asked for money but has said my family would have to help pay for the wedding. We would obviously cover our costs but it seems odd for Muslim parents to allow their son to marry if the family canāt afford it? He said we can have a small nikkah in Morocco from his family and a big wedding in England from my family. I have also told him that I only have a job till the end of this year so not sure what could happen after. He said he is waiting to find out from the police whether he has a job with them and if he does, then we can stay in Morocco as heāll be able to look after a family with that salary. He is currently working in retail atm and works 6 days a week. He went to university and when I google his name, his university comes up and the degree he completed. He is also awaiting to see if he can get a teaching job. He has said his family are financially comfortable and would be okay without him as his dad has a pension. He has not given me any sob stories about his family. He is very loving so has already told me he loves me and hopes that we will have true love when married. I can tell he really cares about me and I do love how he makes me feel. He pays so much attention to what I say, even throwaway details. However, he can be stubborn and likes it when I show love and softness towards him and gets annoyed quickly if I ignore him or donāt show much emotion in my responses. He is always there to uplift me and always reminds me of my religion which I find very comforting. He is also very serious about what he wants and doesnāt want in a marriage. Most of these things align with our religion so nothing too surprising. He gets jealous over things and wants to know exactly what I am doing at all times. Even if it is just what I ate for dinner. He has encouraged me to end the relationship if I canāt trust him because he doesnāt want me to keep questioning him and doesnāt want to waste time with me if I donāt really want this relationship. He made an oath to Allah (God) that he is being genuine with me and wants a real love marriage with me. This is obviously a major thing for a Muslim to do so I am inclined to think he is telling the truth, but you never know. He has spoken to my parents on video call. They like him but obviously have their concerns about his intentions. His parents are aware of me and I am soon to speak to his mum on video call. He has two Instagram profiles, I searched him up before I told him to add me and he added me on one account and i noticed his following went down by about 20 before he added me. He delayed adding me for a few days too. He said he wanted to get rid of girls who I may get annoyed with him having. He showed me he had a second account too but canāt get into the account because of password issues. Not sure if that is believable tbh however in the profile picture of the other insta account, he does look very young so could be true. He prays 5 times a day and comes across as practising, however he has sent me photos of his privates. He asked for similar photos of myself but I refused. He never asked again once I said no. I put it down to us both flirting at the time and our hormones getting the better of us or maybe itās a sign he doesnāt respect me?
I just want to know what you think? Obviously we are both Muslims and so it means we have a lot in common already and our cultures are different but again, a lot of similarities. We get on so well and I have prayed and prayed for someone like him as he makes me feel so at ease and that I can be myself. Our humour is so similar and it just means we can talk and laugh for hours. He says he loves that I am a ābeautiful, respectful and modestā woman who gives him peace. However, I am aware he has lied to me with his age. He hasnāt pushed marriage to happen very quickly but would like to get married within a year which again as Muslims is pretty normal to progress things at pace. But in this circumstance, I am worried his intentions arenāt as pure. My gut does trust him but this feels like such a risk if I am wrong about him.
I would really appreciate your thoughts on this. I am very soft hearted and can be quite easily manipulated so would really love an outside perspective on this.
JAIKUMAR
Hi, same issue with moroccunts girls, zero empathy, ungrateful, now they all aim: USA, CAN, UK, AUS, NZ and not Spain, France, Nederland, Danmark anymore.
Pakistani and Indian men bring a lot of these moroccan women to UK.
https://youtube.com/shorts/SzEwbSakT84?si=NWGkdc39Jv4zQv2Y
Morocco is like India, Pak, Latinos, Africa, etc same scam
With India and Pak be careful with a specific community: Punjabies Sikh or Muslim.
For paper they will do anything
White-man created third world, that gap now is too late.
Anna
I have seen so many red flags. I am not sure now whether I should trust my moroccan guy anymore.
1. He asks money indirectly. His mother is seriously sick. His salary is too low. The flight ticket is too expensive for him.
2. He said āI love youā and talked about marriage at the very early stage. However I insist not to marry him very soon.
3. He does not want to have kids even though he is only 34.
4. He compromises too much and wants me happy.
5. He does not change his relationship status on facebook. But I have not asked him to change it.
6. We have huge age gaps. He is 18 years younger than me.
Kate
Honestly, the one that worries me most is the money one. Moroccan men are proud, and a Moroccan man would never, ever, ever take money from a woman he seriously saw a future with. The Moroccan culture is one of community and sharing; if his mom really had a medical emergency (this is another common lie/scam) they would borrow from cousins, aunts, distant relatives, or even friends. He would never even hint at his money problems and if he ever accepted money? Even if you had to push him to take it (because they’ll do that: say how hard life is and then basically beg YOU to send HIM money). That’s a huge red flag.
I would just worry that he’s telling you all the classic things they say in these relationships, like “don’t worry about age, the prophet’s wife Khadijah was older” or “I don’t care about kids” — both things that are very, very unusual in Moroccan culture. Men care about kids a lot as part of their Islamic duty, and Moroccan men almost never marry older Moroccan women.
Just be safe. Feel free to send me an email if you’d like to talk further. And never, ever, ever send money PLEASE.
Anna
Dear Kate, thank you sonnige for your quick response.
We have met on my travel to Morocco. We have spent three days together in Morocco. He is not my online date.
About money: He mentioned the money issue only. But he said he would take a loan from his brother when he neede money. But he has not asked me directly for money. But I do paid everything when we were together. I did it because I earn more than him in Germany.
About age and kids: I told him about my worries about our age gap and I can not have kids any more. It seems he does not care about the huge age gap. And he told me he does not like kids.
I really enjoy his attention, passion and love he showed to me. He send me everyday messages and told me he loves me and wants to be with me forever.
I think I will take my time and try to know him more. I will not promis to marry him soon. I hope that he is a geniue guy with whom I can build a future with love.
Lulu
Thankyou for a great site. It is so helpful.
I met a very caring man whilst on holiday about 10 months ago.
He has always been the same and attentive. Even when we are apart and never asked for gifts or money.
The main red flag for us is the age difference as I am 18 years older.
From the start I made him aware of this and we spoke about problems having a family etc. as ideally he would like a family. Me also and we both know due to me being older it could not happen.
Everything was going well. Contact when I was not in Morocco was constant and when I was there he took care of everything.
I was introduced to some of his family and they were all happy for us.
Something else that made me slightly nervous was that he had mentioned he would like to come to the UK. I made him aware at this point which was the start of our relationship that this may not be possible and if so it would be well in the future due to some situations in my life.
This did not deter him and he started talking of us settling elsewhere.
He has now in the last month taken a job in another country which he only accepted as I agreed to go and see him there. He is finding it hard as away from everyone.
Everything was going OK until about a week ago and his manner to me changed. I ssked him what was happening.
He said his Mother wants him to marry and when he said he wanted to marry me she has told him she will not accept this.
She wants him to marry a young Muslim girl from Morocco.
He has now ended our relationship as he wants to make her happy and will not argue with her due to her age and health.
When I try ask him things I now get he has stopped loving me etc.and even said the age was a problem.
I know their Mothers are a high priority to them but is this normal?
Kate
I’m really sorry you’re going through that. Sadly, when you marry a Moroccan man, you marry their whole family. Unfortunately, we’ll never know his motivation or why he changed his mind. I will say that mothers are a huge priority and can ultimately change a man’s mind. I’ve seen situations where a man goes against his mother’s wishes and she ends up tearing their marriage apart over time. I would personally never encourage someone to marry a Moroccan man without the family’s approval as they do hold so much power in their son’s lives and relationships. I am really sorry this happened.
Lulu
Thankyou Kate so much for your reply.
My ex and I have spoken a little over the last day. He is always so sorry for everything and tells me what we had was real and that he did love me.
Have to admit I am finding it hard in letting go and understanding how someone can change their mind and feelings so quick.
He keeps tell me I know the reason why we cant be. Which I reply ‘his mother not accepting me’. Which he agrees and then goes on to tell me it is also because I am not Muslim and my age as he wants someone his own age. I assume this maybe because of what was said with his Mother.
This is all new to me up to last week when I seemed to be his priority.
If I keep on at him too much he gets defensive and a bit off with me and repeats the reason and even says he has girls that want him. This is not nice but I cant work out why he would be like that. Is it because deep down he still feels the same for me and is try push me away to make it easier, is it just to hurt me or maybe he never wanted me.
I am so mixed up and my emotions are all over the place. I am feel it was all real and that he does actually still care of me. But only he really knows this. I have so many people giving me their opinion but they are not used to this culture.
I am keep hope something will change but I know this will not happen. I need to walk away but its easier said than done. Wish I knew his secret to moving forward.
I have to say in the time I was with him I have never found someone to care, love and protect as he did.
So ladies do not dismiss a relationship with a man from Morocco just know everything from the start to save any hurt later and watch out for the signs.
JM Palatin
I met a super friendly middle aged Moroccan man at the Chouara Tannery in Fes. This is not my first experience with this type of man and you are so right that men who work in a high tourist area do have a certain “charm”. While I am delighted to get to know my new friend, he has done a lot of the things you mention here. Love Bombed me until I almost exploded! But I was onto him and let him know that I was not looking for that sort of friendship.
We are middle aged, not kids, and frankly I am surprised it still happens with men at this age but here we are.
I was a little disappointed but I am also wise. The more I get to know him – as a platonic friend – and he knows I prefer the truth, I am okay with him being married and having a family and wanting all these girlfriends. The more I get to learn about Morocco and the men there, I am able to decide if this is a country I may wish to retire in – soon. I am considering purchasing a riad. NOT finding a Moroccan husband OR having children. š
Good on you for the input of your blog as there seems to be a common thread with many Moroccan men. I am not sure really what their overall intention is? Is it that they just want money or sex? My new friend wants me to meet his wife and kids and even stay with them on my next visit! Not sure I will be up for that but I am cautiously moving forward with the friendship and learning more about him every day. Thoughts?
Ayla
So happy to stumbled upon this post.
I met a Moroccan guy later this month, he visited my country for the reason of finding a job and a wife (yeah, he did say that directly). I accompanied him to find the restaurants for him to work because of curiosity but also a sense of politeness.
He claimed to get a stable job back in another country but want to make my country settle down with life. He is in his early 40s, never been married.
During our convo, he asked me multiple times to take photos of us together, to which I refused. He even showed his big family photos including the nieces and nephews . He still wants to introduce me to his younger sister.
He asked to meet my parents, and I refused, of course, because we only met several times.
He asked me to consider him for a serious relationship. I told him it takes time and one just cannot be in a relationship based on several meetups.
My country is not an advanced one. I understand most of the ladies here probably are coming from an advanced countries, so those guys probably go after a better future.
Meanwhile, for me, I am confused about whether his actions can be considered a red flag. Should i give it a go and see where it leads? or should I just stop ?
Thank you for reading š
Kate
Hi there!
Personally, I do not necessarily think of those as big red flags, especially if he does not stand to gain from you financially or through citizenship. Moroccan and Muslim men tend to move fast when they are ready for marriage and him wanting you to meet his family and vice versa is pretty normal for Moroccan men, especially ones in their thirties and forties, who are genuinely interested in marriage.
That being said, his timeline is not yours, and I would encourage you to set boundaries and only move as fast as you’re comfortable. I’d also learn a lot about Moroccan culture and relationships, as they often have a pretty big impact on Moroccan marriages, even outside of Morocco. Be careful of “love bombing” and moving super fast. If you like him, I’d say go for it and keep getting to know him! But maybe communicate that things are going a bit fast and you want to get to know him better before family gets involved š
N
I met a Moroccan guy when I was there sometime this year, and I thought we had a little bit of chemistry and we like each other a lot. Fortunately, I cannot relate to any of these red flags. I am just very curious because I am not sure how to bring up this topic with him. He mentioned that he has a son, based on his stories, he spends a day (or two) with his kid every two weeks or so. Is it possible that he is or was married? I’ve been to his house and met his mother; it’s just him and his mother at home. Also, any tips how I bring up this topic?
For additional context, I am ingle, Asian, and in mid-thirties.
Kate
I would just ask him. I’m sure he’d be open about it if asked.
Sumaiya
Hi Kate, how do I email you please. I want to talk x
Kate
I added you on Tiktok š
Angie
I’m 45 and the Moroccan man I’ve been talking to is 33. We did meet on a dating site but it started friendly with no expectations but over time we both have expressed strong feelings for each-other.We’ve talked about kids because he has never been married and has no kids, I do not want any more and he says he would love to have one but if it doesn’t happen that is ok because he’d rather be with me. I’ve asked him why is he not interested in Moroccan women and he says that it is hard because many moroccan women can be materialistic and if the man doesn’t have a lot they might not be interested. RED FLAGS??
I have video chatted with him and he’s introduced me to his family and his mother and two sisters a few times via video. he says they welcome me anytime and accept the fact that I am older and what is most important is that I am a good person. He has invited my two adult sons to visit and meet him and his family as well .
I feel he is genuine but I don’t trust easily . Do you think it is a good sign that he wants to meet my sons and tell them how he feels about me?
P.S. He says he is into BBW women and I am one . I heard another Moraccan man say this before . Is that a cultural “thing” or maybe just a matter of preference ? I just hope he doesn’t think because I am plus that I am desperate.
Kate
That’s a hard question because there are so many factors when it comes to knowing someone’s true intentions. The woman being 10+ years older is not common in Moroccan relationships at all, and many men will want children as a big part of their identity in becoming a man is having a family. But that isn’t everyone. Him wanting to meet your sons could be a good sign, but many, many scammers meet their victim’s entire families and his family acts super warm and inviting towards her with the full knowledge that it’s for the green card (some families even push their sons to pursue a green card marriage because it benefits the whole family).
The idea that Moroccan men marry outside of their culture because Moroccan women are so demanding and materialistic is one of the most common ways they explain looking outside of Morocco, and it’s simply not true. There are many Moroccan women who work alongside their husbands to build a family and a good life but it is the most “convenient” way to explain their pursuit of non-Moroccan women to suspicious foreigners.
The BBW thing: I definitely think it’s a matter of preference, but Moroccan men are less quick to write a woman off for being bigger. Not all Moroccan men like bigger women, but many do (more than in the US, in my experience).
ESSA
This is really strange and did not satisfy me. I am a Moroccan with Moroccan roots and none of these characteristics apply to me. A respectable man with moral values. I love cooperation from people and taking care of the person I love. I do not care about money because I earn as much as a person can earn. I love traveling and Getting to know new people and also helping those in need is one of my priorities.
Kate
What part is strange and what part do you disagree with? Obviously this is not a characterization of all Moroccan men (including the one I love and am married to) but rather to the many, many Moroccan men who seek out foreign women for financial gain and citizenship papers. There are many great Moroccan men, and this article is not addressing them.
Marisel castillo
Hi I have a big age gap with a Morrocan man. he want children and is willing to adopt bring I no longer could have children. The only red flag I see is he hide his social media. Reading you’re red flag list I’m very concern about this.
Kate
I’m adding a section about this for you. It’s a big concern.
JM
This is now my second post and I am writing to apologize to any muslim woman may read this.
I have learned that Moroccan married men do not have opposite sex “friends” as we are known to have in western cultures. Their attention is expected to go toward their wife ONLY! It is highly frowned upon for a ‘good’ married muslim man to have any interation with another woman that is not his wife, mother or sister(s), outside of his actual paying job. To do so would mean he only wants money to better his family or/and maybe to have an affair. No muslim wife would stand for a friendship or interaction with another woman otherwise.
I so regret doing anything that may offend another, in particular, another woman. Especially in Morocco!
“Do the best you can until you know better. When you know better, do better.”
– Maya Angelou
Kate
I couldn’t agree with you more! It’s highly unacceptable to have friends of the opposite gender in Morocco when you are married, and I would be suspicious of any man who found it okay to have a female friend who wasn’t his family.
Jordan Carter
Fellow Ladies!
I agree with so many of these red flags!
I do want to offer a little bit of hope. I am an American married to a Moroccan man. We have been married for the past 5.5 years and it has been amazing. I know my situation is totally different however because I met him while he was in the United States and not while I visited Morocco. We did move very quickly, but we just knew right away it was meant to be. I never believed in love at first sight or the whole “when you know, you know” until it happened to me. We both knew the first night we met that it was forever.
I have never had someone who respects me or treats me with complete kindness the way he does. I am not a very religious person- I grew up completely confused by all the drama I would encounter in churches in the United States. Seeing how much of a peaceful life he leads and knowing it is because of his faith has swayed me.
I know there are sooo soooo many red flags meeting foreigners and having them use you for money and immigration purposes, but I hope all of you meet someone one day that treats you the way my moroccan husband treats me.
Best of luck!
Louise
Hi Kate
I’ve not heard from my Moroccan boyfriend for two weeks. His phone is off and he’s not been on social media. I received a message from his sister on his phone today that he has been arrested and he wanted her to tell me that he will call me soon and wish him luck. Do you think this is serious or am I being fooled? I’ve never met his family.
Susudimana
I met this berber man, when he was my tour guide. True enough within days he said that he is in love with me, and things heated up between us. Jusy FYI, I’m not European and not from any developed countries. I’m actually from Southeast Asia, so no blonde hair blue eyes. Since I returned home a month ago, he continues to video call me every few days, and says that he plans to visit in the next 2 months. He told me his mother is aware about me, but not his father or siblings yet, even told me he is divorced but no kids because his work requires him to be on the road most of the time and this took a toll on the marriage. On top of that he recently told me to come visit him next year, and I can live with him while I’m travelling there and I don’t need to spend extra money on anything except the air tickets to fly there.
I don’t know whether to believe him because I’m naturally a suspicious person, and in Asia the sweeter a guy is the more suspicious we are taught to be. At the same time, I don’t know if he is sincere. I’ve several times told him I can’t trust what he says, and he told me he’ll wait however long it takes to win my trust. Just wanted to get some input from fellow people!
ZS
Hello, what is your email – I would like to raise some of the concerns I have, I am really confused about my Moroccan man and would appreciate some insight and advice. Thank you so much!
Kate
Hi there, my website has a contact section at the top where you can message me directly š
Vicky Wadsworth
Please grab a drink and sit down.. this story is long.. I lived in Qatar and met a moroccan man on line.. he lied about his age.. I then found out later i was 20 years older.. he was attentive, handsome, fit,i was so impressed he was with me… he said social media didnt matter to him so there was no need to add me..yes red flags constantly..never mentioned visas, or moving but made slight comments,, Im from NZ, Can live in Australia and have Canadian passport..bingo for a low income Moroccan man in Qatar.. he was a firefighter and i made alot more than him but he never ever paid for anything as he said he sent money home, income was low, he told me he didnt drink much, never went out, had work curfew, which i believed as i had meet truthful others who had certain time to be home, thought it was amazing he would say hey baby let me know when youre heading home…random things started to happen… i hired a new nanny for my work and she randomly asked me to show her a picture..she went white and said omg he is on tinder,, the story gets worse..we ended up getting married…i went to morocco met his family, he met my family and friends but of course i covered all travel and hotel expenses and gave him spending cash.. so 6 months after getting married i thought it was weird that we still werent on any social media but i was posting him on mine… then my world came crashing down…i asked my friend to ask her friend who was super cute and we werent friends to request his friendship..within few minutes he accepted and then messaged her you look familar how do i know you..then… 15 minutes later this girl messages her asking how does she know him…my friends friend sent her instagram so i messaged her showing our marriage photos and other pictures and of course saying why are you asking about my husband…and guess what….she was his current fiance and living in the UK, they met in Qatar and dated for 5 years but she left but their relationship continued…and she had come to visit him 3 times..and in the beginning she was happy to share screenshot etc
i then realized when he told me he had training, and when i left morocco for my birthday trip she arrived few days later…what upset me is his family knew me but they also knew her…so please dont trick yourself into thinking its good as ive met his family..she sentscreenshot her instagram posting their holidays and i saw some liked photos and can you believe his family and brother had liked their photos but we werent friends then…he told me this very big story about having to go back to Morocco because his dad had been in serious accident.i felt terrible so gave him money and his messages each day were referring to the hospital and treatment..it was all crap…and we found this out when applying for Canadian visa we had to do 10 years of travel…he didnt travel in 2016…i can go on and on..after coming back and starting to check all his lies from the past…he was in clubs even tho claiming curfew..even after marriage took him 6 months to move in..i then found so many photos and his fiance shared alot…but then she turned and went quiet..he had convinced her we had broken up and they were planning on being together…he stopped at nothing..we had sexeverydayso i thought how can he be fucking others..but he did…he video and wanked to his fiance daily…lies lies and more lies…
then the physical abuse started…he got mad when i could prove his story wrong..i lived in fear..he wouldnt leave my home..as a fireman he knew ways to break in…he felt it was his right as a husband to be in the home… he would say he was going out and just not coming home but the excuses and the stories are incredible,….i know this story is long and i can go into so much detail but ladies if it feels wrong it is…100%…they are subtle..he stole from me, he never paid for one thing, i had to leave the country to get away and even now he is blocked but he makes up fake accounts to harass me and abuse me…. its their game…i dont believe their is one good one..i am not the only one that i know of who went through same thing…its a subtle play to get what they want…they dont love you..they are narcassists.. he said things ive never even thought about…its all bullshit..they use foreigners from any country to benefit them..i have lost hundreds of thousands because of him…7 years is a long time and it only got worse…and he is still with that fiance,,,she didnt care he got married, she didnt care we were trying for a baby,they manipulate, they cover, they are always lying about something….please dont believe a word…we would take holidays that i paid for and he would make excuses not to come home or go out,pick a fight and storm out…my friends who loved him in the beginning started to hate him, he slept with so many people and sad thing was randomly i met them and they didnt know he was my husband….always a story, always a lie
get out when you can…i feel hurt as i truly loved him but for him its a game…that is what they do…all of them..dont be fooled..you feel it… its true..
thanks for reading…
Angela
HI everyone, so I been talking to a moroccan man for almost 14 yrs now. I am 10 years old then him, which most think its a red flag for some. and no he is not married and no he doesnt have a gf. we have meet many times. he never ask for money his mother and I speak all the time over the phone and so does my mother she speaks to him as well. some say they are bad but there is always that one in million you could say. when his father was alive we spoke as well. his family is aware that I am much older then him. I taught him english and he taught me arabic, which was a win win deal on my part. he has a job as a teacher for kids which he loves. he went to college just as I was doing college. we share every day about things going on in both our lifes.
I love him and he loves me. he dont bad mouth women in his own countrie at all. he just chose’s a diff path in life. what we can give someone is not always love and affection. for the one who spoke about sexy pics and so on. well we dont do this over the phone this is more of in person deal for us.
just wanted to put my two sense into this conversation seems a lot of back and forth on the negative side. but I know how my man is and where we are going with out realsonship.
thanks for listening everyone. hope it makes sense … you do have to be carful out there scammers are from every countrie not just morocco.
Vic
So… This just happened to me, a random 23 year old man message me on Instagram, I’m 22 Greek with 2 citizenships, he knew that. He was very polite and we were talking all day, 1š© he has not job or future plans for himself 2š© from the 2 nd day he called me his habibti (his love) 3š© from the 2nd day he was introducing me the idea to travel to Marrakech 4š© i told him my future plans that i have family in Scandinavia and one day i will move there and he told me that he would follow me everywhere 5š© from the 4th day of talking he was searching for me flights from Greece to Marrakech and hotels 6š© he told me that he wants to change his name “Muhammad” on papers because it’s the most famous Muslim name and he wants to do stuff like drinking alcohol, partying and his name is a border 7š© I’m sure that If I went there every thing would come out of my pocket 8š© when I told him that i don’t have a passport he was very shook and he kept asking me if i was a true European citizen in which i answered that the Europeans can travel to any European Union country with only their id card and I have never been to other no European country for me to have a passport 9š© he briefly mentioned for us to get married one day and have kids IN THE FIRST WEEK we were talking 10š© he would always love bombing me 11š© his Instagram page is full of women 12 š© he follows a pages for dating abroad 13š© he told me many times to say hi from him to my friends from the 5th day we were talking 14š© when I sent him a very lengthy message about not be able to travel there anytime soon, acknowledge him that he is a very nice person, but it’s better to leave it that way and only being pen pals because i cared for him and i would like to know how is doing from time to time and if he is okay… He left me on read till this day .
Alexa
So I met a wonderful Moroccan man recently on line. He seems very sweet and he is very nice to me. We have talked about meeting although it’s only been about a week. He has also spoken of marriage. He says he is poor and that he is looking for a different job. He says he can’t find a good job in Morocco and has an opportunity to go to another country to work through a contract. He has asked me to go to the new country with him so we can be together. He did tell my the cost he needs to pay to go. He said his friend gave him half and that be needs to come up with the other half. He asked my today if I could help in anyway. I said no and he said it’s fine I should not worry that he will get the money Also he wanted to have phone sex today. We have video chatting as well. . He seems very sincere but after reading this article I am not sure anymore.
Kate
Hi there, I’m so sorry to say but a Moroccan man would never, ever, ever ask money from a woman he was romantically interested in. Morocco is still very much a patriarchal, traditionally masculine culture. If he actually saw a future with you, he would never ask you for money. Also, asking for phone sex means he’s either completely disrespectful or thinks very lowly of you. Personally, if you were my sister, I would tell you to block him as rushing marriage, asking for money, and engaging in sexual conversations means he’s probably love bombing you and talking to many women in order to get money, sex, papers, or all of the above.
Greta
Oh my god that is so insightful and im currently dating to a moroccan man and wonder if i missed any red flags! Weve met only once i live in the UK and weve only been speaking for 5 months.
First. We met when i was on a holiday there and we met thru hinge. Hes very charming but reading this i fear he might have love bombed me. Right off the bat he said he found his perfect woman and has intentions to marry. I was sceptical of this but he seems to still have this idea in mind.
Second. We always talk when its nightime there and his family is always ‘asleep’ when i asked to see them. Ive never met them.
Third. Hes told me his family is struggling financially and i offered to help so sent him a total Ā£1000.
I really do think hes genuine but do you guys think hes just using me?
Kate
Hi there, I commented this to someone else but I’ll repeat it: Iām so sorry to say but a Moroccan man would never, ever, ever ask money from a woman he was romantically interested in. Morocco is still very much a patriarchal, traditionally masculine culture. If he actually saw a future with you, he would never ask you for money. And let me guess, he probably didn’t ask directly but instead (likely) told you tales of woe about his family circumstances and let you believe it was your idea and not his so you didn’t see it for the red flag that it was? I’ve seen that happen a bunch of times. If you haven’t yet, PLEASE don’t send him money and if you have, PLEASE stop. Moroccans are incredibly resourceful and I imagine he lived just fine before you and he doesn’t need your money, and is likely getting $$ from many foreign women. This is a full-time job to many Moroccan men.
Marie
Kate,
I recently visited Morocco and on my last day i was waiting in a hotel for the hired car to pick me and a friend up to go to the airport when in walks the driver. When I heard my name I turned to look at him and the attraction between us was immediate- you could geel it in the air. I sat up front with him because I get car sick. My friend was way in the back. We chatted and joked and hit it off. As soon as I responded to him that I’m not married he asked for my number. We’ve been communicating in writing and video chat ever since. I really enjoy talking with him, getting to know him and learning about his culture. He seems very genuine, open, honest, funny, intelligent and charming. But. There are 3 of the red flags that you list in your article-1. age gap (i am way older but look younger than my age and he looks older than his), 2. says he doesn’t want kids, 3. already tells me he loves me. He wants me to visit Morocco and has asked if I’d be interested in living there someday with him. He talks excitedly about bringing me to his cillage where his mom lives. He has asked if id consider converting to islam (but wasnt pushy about it) and has taught me things about the religion. Truth is- I am indeed considering a move overseas and have been for about 3 years. I can’t tell if this is a potentially real relationship or if I’m being played (or a little of both?) He knows about my financial woes, knows I want to leave the US, and knows about my flaws and issues. We’ve talked about a LOT and speak daily. Part of me wants to just see where it goes, while being alert to more red flags, because it’s fun and exhilarating and I really like him. Part of me wonders if I’m being entirely stupefied by all the attention he is giving me. What do you think? I appreciate any advice you can offer.
Sikha
Hi Kate. I love your article. Not so many articles about Morocco man.
I have one child. And I know someone from Morocco from online. And first our chat he want us be relationships. And of course I feel something like how he want be relationships with people he don’t know well. I said no I don’t love him. But he said love will come later. And when I said I don’t want being relationship then he said he don’t want be friend. If I don’t want relationship then he don’t want chat me anymore. So I just accepted him without love. But then it easy to fall in love because he caring, loving and everything. But the problem we are different country and time which when I night he day time. He said he workng but I don’t understand his job because everyday he need making a new Gmail acc. Sometime he asking me help him create a Gmail acc. I help him 2 time then can’t ady. Then he always say Don chat with other guy. He said he love me, want have kid with me. He also always sex chat with me. He want me come live to morocco with him. But I don’t know he is real or not. I’m scared scam. But we always video call. So what I need to do. Should I meet him to morocco or left him. I don’t knw what to do.